Porn Industry and Modesty
by Layna Hess at her blog,
“My Thoughts, My Words”
I thought I would take the time to write about something a bit different. It’s something I am passionate about. I love books, and I enjoy reading as much as the next person. Unfortunately, I believe that there are some books that should simply be burned due to the fact that they are poisonous to the mind.There is a book called 50 Shades of Grey, and recently the movie came out. As a female, I must say I find it rather appalling due to the fact that they constantly engage in BSDM–and to those that are not aware of what this is, it’s nothing more than a celebration of rape, pain, abuse, and disrespect towards a human being. This is the constant trash that you would find in porn. Porn treats a body not as glorious reflections of the image of God, but as sources of sin and temptation.
I’m not sure what I’m more concerned about. The fact that this is socially “acceptable” entertainment, or the fact that women enjoy reading this. The core to this is: we don’t have a positive example for our children. The divorce rate is 50%. We live in a society where broken families is the norm, and we have kids growing up without a mother or a father..sometimes both. In this instance, I will be speaking about fathers. There are many girls growing up without that father figure. A girl’s first love should be her father. Unfortunately, in today’s society this isn’t always the case. A father should be there to give the parental love and affection they need, and to show them what they deserve for later on in life. Boys, never having a male role model around to tell them how to treat women with respect and love. Aside from our paternal father, we should be looking to our Heavenly Father first and foremost as the ultimate example.
But, what is teaching our children? The porn industry, which teaches us violence against a human being. It teaches us to degrade another life. Some would use the term “violence against women”, but two people take part in the act, both people are at fault in my eyes.
Let’s look at some statistics:
- 80% of 15-17 year olds have been exposed to hard core porn.
- 67% of men and 59% of women said that porn was acceptable.
- Studies have shown porn is more addictive than heroin or cocaine.
On top of all of this, we have sex trafficking that takes place in the world. We are disgusted at those who would hold women and children as sex slaves, deny them their human rights, and make them mere objects for sexual pleasure. At the same time, pornography is tolerated, accepted, openly defended, and even celebrated. What you might not know is that many women and children who are being sexually exploited and trafficked are also being used for the production of pornography.
Reading these statistics saddens me, especially since I have known people that have struggled with porn. It breaks my heart. Impurity chains your heart, and clouds your mind. What you choose to feed your brain makes a difference. To those that struggle, every single time my advice is to pray constantly. Pray for the graces to be pure, and stay close to Mary through the Rosary. Even though porn may not seem “real”, it is. You aren’t dealing with just a woman. You aren’t dealing with just a man.You are dealing with a daughter of God. You are dealing with a son of God. His creations are meant to be respected and loved. His creations are not meant to be mistreated, abused, and lusted after for ones own selfish pleasure. Treat him/her, accordingly. It might take more than prayer to beat the addiction. I highly suggest spiritual guidance/counseling. Because it is a selfish act, true love becomes harder to find. Love is about self giving and sacrifice. Christ is the perfect example of love.
One should really contemplate on the selfish aspect alone.
Just try to imagine. You are spending hours pleasuring yourself to impure images and various videos, you begin to become obsessed not only to the pornographic material, but to yourself. You don’t know how to embrace the sacrifice that true love is designed for. Instead you view others as toys for your own selfish entertainment that are designed to fulfill every want and need—just like the pornographic material. A Christ love is about giving and serving. It’s about sacrifice. What kind of love is narcissistic and abusive?
So, what can we do to help others remain pure?
For the rest of the post, and a positive, Catholic and loving answer from a very smart young woman…CLICK HERE!